Rudeness at a nightclub is like a dragon guarding the castle treasure.
That dragon has laid waste to many confident knights, with the requisite dance and people skills. To vanquish that dragon, one must discover its fears and motivation.
Yes, you have learned how to dance, but that won't make the nightclub around you less weird.
5 Reasons There Are Rude Girls at a Salsa Club
For the record, there are Rude people of either sex at nightclubs. In fact, we aren't sticking up for rude guys, because, as you will see, it usually takes some rude guys to create a rude girl. So let's examine further, unravel the mystery, and create a better strategy to make your Salsa Club experience as rude-free as possible.
5 Real Reasons for Rude Club Behavior
1. What Is Their Typical Nightclub Environment Like?
Beautiful women at a club can be viewed, and approached, like a pile of gold on a bar stool. Something takes over, guys start to swarm, lose all decency, and approach with dollar signs in their eyes like it's the gold rush. Askmen.com says, "Remember that beautiful women are usually hit on a lot at clubs and bars. Most of the guys are drunk and stupid... or using lame pickup lines... or acting like wussies... or offering to buy drinks."
Rude Rationale: Tired of social trespassers.
2. Dancing Isn't Their Thing
As great as it would be to have supermodel legs, and never pay for another bar drink again in your life, not every good looking woman at a Salsa Club knows how to Salsa Dance. So, even with the skills to dance the salsa, you may get the cold shoulder because her salsa isn't too hot.
Rude Rationale: Dismissive due to a lack of dance skill.
3. Past Experience
There are guys out there that know full well how powerful dancing can be in the pickup artist game. Yet many guys will approach as a wolf in dancers clothing. This may not have happened that night, but it surely would put a girl into the "Do Not Disturb" zone for would-be dance suitors in the future.
Rude Rationale: Took the bait from a "kind dancer" before, and isn't falling for that one anymore.
4. Waiting for Someone
Sure, this can actually be a brush off (see #1), but in this case - they may be waiting for their dance partner. Listen, you can be a polite salsa champion, but don't think that that earns you the right to interrupt someone's date.
Rude Rationale: Antonio Banderas is actually on his way back.
5. Not Her Type
We hate to be the bearers of bad news, but, even with dance skills, you may not be the kind of guy she's looking for. As frustrating as that may be, it's important to note that:
- Every time you ask someone to dance, it's an invitation - not a demand.
- The person on the other end has the right to choose which invitations they accept - and that doesn't necessarily make them rude.
- Asking more people to dance, and focusing on improving your dance confidence, will gradually eliminate any hurt feelings or ego bruising.
- Don't ever end your night at a Salsa Club after an unsuccessful dance invitation.
Things That Would Be "Salsa Club Rude"
1. Declining A Dance For the Show of It - If her drink ended up on your new suit just for asking.
2. Complaining About Dance Skill - This is pretty obvious, but not to everyone. Great dancers should be graceful on and off the dance floor.
3. Cold Shoulder - If you haven't earned it, then a total blow off is a little rude. Considering some of the points above, it may not be directed at you, but every other rude guy that battered her with pickup lines and aggressive machismo.
Final Thought
Learning how to dance puts you into an elite class of fish in the social sea. Nevertheless, it's your "off-the-dance-floor" skills that will create the opportunities for those people to see what you are capable of. The goal at Arthur Murray is to use dancing as a vehicle to confidence, and just like the cross body lead in Salsa - it is a process, but well worth committing to.
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