Now, play it cool. Remain calm. He's right there.
The one thing that could stop this mission in its tracks is some average blunder. So, while other ladies are using the latest guilt trips and death threats, you'll be the cool one. No pressure.
Convincing your man to take dance lessons will require a delicate approach.
Just a series of strategic moves, investments of time, and all for a good purpose.
History: Most guys want to watch the game. In most cases, this comes with a little grief. Football Insurance gives him the luxury of watching the game with no fear of silent, or not so silent, retaliation.
The Deal: Just make a deal that every ballroom and latin dance lesson with you earns him an hour of guilt-free-go-ahead-put-your-feet-on-the-coffee-table-football. Be sure to replace dance lessons with any other normal "honey-do" activity you'd use as Football watching currency.
History: Most couples will alternate between his and her movie choices. So men, typically, only enjoy half the movies they see.
The Plan: Offer to trade out your art house foreign language movie selection, or anything with Ryan Gosseling, for a Tango lesson together. Any couple can go see a movie, but not many can say they go tango dancing. So even though you have to give up some quality girl-cinema, you’ll have your leading man on the dance floor.
History: Unfortunately, history suggests that there are numerous demands for men to join in on dancing, but without any exchange of student services. Rather than letting things regress to an eye for an eye. May we suggest a lesson for a lesson?
The Plan: If he's asked, if you feel uncomfortable, if it's not your thing... great! Tolerating that is the first step to making this work. After all, he will feel all of that in the first few minutes on the dance floor. So, set a great example and he is likely to reciprocate.
History: Some guys are resistant to the positive effects of dancing. Try making your dance lesson part of your evening out, instead of the whole show.
The Plan: If you're too eager, you may come across as pushy. Instead, resist the temptation and make it a secondary activity for your evening out. Even if dancing is just an appetizer, it's still working toward the goal. (Suggestion: Withhold dessert if he skips any part of the evening).
History: We have had plenty of Arthur Murray students who have started, or maintained, a dance hobby without their significant other.
The Plan: Sometimes, all it takes is the motivated party getting their foot in the door. If you wait until the excuses stop, you may wait forever - and resent him for it. Instead, go on a scouting mission. Start your lessons, share the results, and stick with it.
You didn't nag. You took some risks. You played it cool. Now it's time to keep it that way.
The reality is that dancing may not be in his future, but that doesn’t need to stop you from pursuing something that makes you feel happy, sexy, feminine, or alive. There are hobbies that he has, that you don't have - and that's perfectly normal. Learning to dance together can do wonderful things for your marriage and ability to communicate. Hopefully this is the start to something great in your relationship.
The worst case scenario in all of this is that you become a better dancer... and we think that's pretty cool too.
Happy dancing!
Ready to make your move? It all starts with a free private dance lesson, and some Arthur Murray magic. Whether this is your first time on a dance floor, or your first time in a while - the professional instructors will get you up and moving within the first 5 minutes of your appointment.
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